Sunday Musings – 08.31.25

“Page by page, chapter by chapter, the story unfolds. Day by day, year by year, your own story unfolds, your life’s story. Things happen. People come and go. The scene shifts. Time runs by, runs out. Maybe it is all utterly meaningless. Maybe it is all unutterably meaningful. If you want to know which, pay attention. What it means to be truly human in a world that half the time we are in love with and half the time scares the hell out of us—any fiction that helps us pay attention to that is as far as I am concerned religious fiction. The unexpected sound of your name on somebody’s lips. The good dream. The odd coincidence. The moment that brings tears to your eyes. The person who brings life to your life. Maybe even the smallest events hold the greatest clues.”

Frederick Buechner https://www.frederickbuechner.com/our-shared-story

Nonrandom Thoughts on Retirement – Nov. 2024 (scary chart too)

Americans are split over the state of the American dreamhttps://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/07/02/americans-are-split-over-the-state-of-the-american-dream/

Are you familiar with the self-fulfilling prophecy in psychology/sociology? Simply stated a self-fulfilling prophecy occurs when what you believe about your future causes it to happen. When you believe something will become true, you’ll act to make it a reality. Look at the chart above. Looks like around 50% of the survey respondents under the age of 50 will never achieve their American Dream.

They will make choices and act in ways to ensure they will never achieve the American Dream.

What We Do Is What We Are

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle

Originally published at The Conversation https://theconversation.com/retirement-doesnt-just-raise-financial-concerns-it-can-also-mean-feeling-unmoored-and-irrelevant-233963 and republished here under a Creative Commons license.

Retirement doesn’t just raise financial concerns – it can also mean feeling unmoored and irrelevant

Published: August 29, 2024 8:49am EDT

Author

  1. Marianne Janack John Stewart Kennedy Professor of Philosophy, Hamilton College

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Marianne Janack does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organization that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment.

Most discussions of retirement focus on the financial aspects of leaving the workforce: “How to save enough for retirement” or “How do you know if you have enough money for retirement?”

But this might not be the biggest problem that potential retirees face. The deeper issues of meaning, relevance and identity that retirement can bring to the fore are more significant to some workers.

Work has become central to the modern American identity, as journalist Derek Thompson bemoans in The Atlantic. And some theorists have argued that work shapes what we are. For most people, as business ethicist Al Gini argues, one’s work – which is usually also one’s job – means more than a paycheck. Work can structure our friendships, our understandings of ourselves and others, our ideas about free time, our forms of entertainment – indeed our lives.

I teach a philosophy course about the self, and I find that most of my students think of the problems of identity without thinking about how a job will make them into a particular kind of person. They think mostly about the prestige and pay that come with certain jobs, or about where jobs are located. But when we get to existentialist philosophers such as Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir, I often urge them to think about what it means to say, as the existentialists do, that “you are what you do.”

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How you spend 40 years of your life, I tell them, for at least 40 hours each week – the time many people spend at their jobs – is not just a financial decision. And I have come to see that retirement isn’t just a financial decision, either, as I consider that next phase of my life.

Usefulness, tools and freedom

For Greek and Roman philosophers, leisure was more noble than work. The life of the craftsperson, artisan – or even that of the university professor or the lawyer – was to be avoided if wealth made that possible.

The good life was a life not driven by the necessity of producing goods or making money. Work, Aristotle thought, was an obstacle to the achievement of the particular forms of excellence characteristic of human life, like thought, contemplation and study – activities that express the particular character of human beings and are done for their own sake.

And so, one might surmise, retirement would be something that would allow people the kind of leisure that is essential to human excellence. But contemporary retirement does not seem to encourage leisure devoted to developing human excellence, partly because it follows a long period of making oneself into an object – something that is not free.

German philosopher Immanuel Kant distinguished between the value of objects and of subjects by the idea of “use.” Objects are not free: They are meant to be used, like tools – their value is tied to their usefulness. But rational beings like humans, who are subjects, are more than their use value – they are valuable in their own right, unlike tools.

And yet, much of contemporary work culture encourages workers to think of themselves and their value in terms of their use value, a change that would have made both Kant and the ancient Greek and Roman philosophers wonder why people didn’t retire as soon as they could.

A couple sit at their kitchen table with a laptop open and their bills spread out in front of them.
Retiring could also mean giving up an identity. FatCamera/ E+ via Getty images

‘What we do is what we are’

But as one of my colleagues said when I asked him about retirement: “If I’m not a college professor, then what am I?” Another friend, who retired at 59, told me that she does not like to describe herself as retired, even though she is. “Retired implies useless,” she said.

So retiring is not just giving up a way of making money; it is a deeply existential issue, one that challenges one’s idea of oneself, one’s place in the world, and one’s usefulness.

One might want to say, with Kant and the ancients, that those of us who have tangled up our identities with our jobs have made ourselves into tools, and we should throw off our shackles by retiring as soon as possible. And perhaps from the outside perspective, that’s true.

But from the participant perspective, it’s harder to resist the ways in which what we have done has made us what we are. Rather than worry about our finances, we should worry, as we think about retirement, more about what the good life for creatures like us – those who are now free from our jobs – should be.

At the age of fifty I began the process of becoming what I wanted to be. I had known for a long time that I was a teacher and that the vehicle for my teaching would be in my writing. I also came to the conclusion I would never be compensated well enough through writing to support myself and my family. So I got good at something else.

That something else has and continues to provide a good living.

What I do is who I am and who I am is what I do. No existential crisis here.

My Decision on Retirement

I have made a commitment to work and to share what I learn with others; this is my responsibility and contribution to life. Work has richly educated me, and I am very grateful for the many opportunities I have been given to learn and to share.

Tarthang Tulku

Simple Investment Advice

I have some simple rules when it comes to staying out of trouble when investing:

Know what you own and why you own it.

If you don’t understand something, don’t invest in it.

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

This is not exciting or sexy advice but successful investing is generally boring. Not Getting Rich Fast Enough – A Wealth of Common Sense — https://awealthofcommonsense.com/2024/06/not-getting-rich-fast-enough/

Ben Carlson is a smart man. His short list of unexciting, non-sexy and generally boring bits of investment advice inspired me to add my own generally boring bits of non solicited quasi-investment advice. And in no particular order of importance here they are.

  • Live beneath your means.
  • Pay yourself first (save, save, save some more).
  • Invest in your health (diet, exercise, etc).
  • Invest in your brain, be a lifelong learner.
  • Connect with family and friends (social media doesn’t count).
  • Find your purpose.
  • Work hard. Hard work is no guarantee of success but the lack of hard work guarantees failure.
  • A happy fulfilling life is more than just the money or your net worth.

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there.

The Best Retirement Letter Ever

My favorite excerpt from the letter:

Let’s be honest, some people in academia are horrible, arrogant, selfish and narcissistic. And no matter how much the people at the top say they deal with bad behaviour, the nasty folk do have an annoying habit of getting promoted. The way in which academia selects and rewards particular skill sets produces an over-concentration of people who are low on empathy. I’ve met a lot of those ‘special’ colleagues over the years (no names mentioned obviously). I will not miss them one jot. They create a toxic working environment , dominate the discourse, ride roughshod over the rules, and cause a great deal of harm to others and get away scot-free. They’ve done me significant mental damage, but I can now happily forget them and move on with life.

My recommendation to anyone starting out in academia is stand your ground, challenge these energy vampires and politely make it clear that you don’t want to play their stupid toxic games. They really don’t have the power that they want you to believe they have, even though the system tends to promote them to roles that are beyond their emotional competence to fulfill. Pity them for the lack of other things to do with their lives. And, remember that 98% of what we do as academics is of no importance at all out there in the real world, so when a self-entitled colleague insists that their work on their favourite gene is earth-shattering; more important than anything you could ever do; and a good reason for their career to be advanced faster than yours; just smile and ignore them. Do your own thing, at your own pace. Have a life outside the university and remember that it’s just a job.

https://journalofhumannutritionanddieteticseditor.wordpress.com/2023/11/27/thats-it/